I think I've had enough of everything, all the nonsense and all the bullshit. Maybe being a nice person is not always a good idea. Being a good girlfriend is not a good idea as well. I should start to be a bitch and show my bitchiness so people won't take advantage of me and stop taking me for granted. Enough of being taken for granted, enough of being stepped on, enough of being patient, enough of being bullied, enough of everything. And never ever trust the person who once promised to take care of you and stand up for you. It's all bullshit, only the stupidest person on earth who believe in those things.
Enough is enough, one time was more than enough. All the lies, all the heartache, all the pain, all the sacrifices. I never hurt anyone's feeling just because I don't have a lot of friends. I never hurt people's feelings just because of my kiasuness. I never hurt anyone just because of my own insecurities. My things, I deal it with myself, I don't drag or try to hurt the feeling of those who are around me. I remember someone told me about all this, but seems like some people tend to forget their own words. We don't sacrifice people's feelings just for your own selfishness. You don't have friends or you have a few insecurities or you kiasu, it's all within yourself. You don't have to drag others with you. You don't have to hurt other's feeling just because of your own things.
One saying, girls love guys who hurt them while guys love to hurt those who love them. I think it's very true to some extend. Some people just make use of the love they have from others too easily that they don't appreciate and take it for granted. People never appreciate what is present until they lose it, and usually when it happens, everything will be too late and only regret remains....
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Culture difference
The way of everyone think is different from others. What you think is right might be wrong to others and what others think right might be wrong to you. All this also depends on the culture they believe in and the way they brought up as well as the environment and the people you surround yourself with. This is especialy difficult when it comes to relationship. Who can tell which is right and which is wrong???
Texting other girls/guys for everyday and night, who can tell me if it's right or wrong? One party might take it as nothing but another might think differently. Insecurity is an ugly thing, but it's not just about the insecurity. It is also about respecting your partner's feelings. What if your partner do the same thing, how will you feel about it? One day, two days, three days, one week, two weeks you can still tolerate it and not say anything, how about everyday, how will things become? How will the relationship be? Relationship that is full of hatred because one's voice is never been heard? Is it right or is it wrong?
On the other side, as friends and you text your friend everyday and night knowing they have a partner, who can tell me if it's right or wrong thing to do? Do you as friends ever think of whatever you do which seem ok to you might not be ok to your friend's partner? Do you give a respect to your friend's relationship and their partner regards whether you know them or not? Do you ever think of what if because of what you do then your friend's relationship is ruined? And if it does happen, how do you feel about it, do you ever feel regret and guilty to your friend and their partner?
For some people this issue is acceptable and not for others, depending on the way we see things. Personally, if I know that my friend has a partner, I watch after what I do towards my friendship. Even if they openly tell me that they are and their partner are ok about it, I still watch myself. I respect my friend's relationship and their partner's feeling even if I don't know him/her. I don't want to be called as the third party or be hated because of things that I think it's ok to be done. No matter how closed or how long or how well I know my friend, once I know that they have a partner, I make a gap to make sure that both the friendship between me and my friend and the relationship of my friend and the partner is not ruined or in trouble because of me. I don't want to lose my friendship, and I don't want my friend to lose the relationship as well.
And another thing, if you are in a relationship having a boyfriend/girlfriend, do you think texting with others day and night is the right thing to do even for just being friends? For you maybe it's ok but do you ever consider about how your other half think and feel about it? Even if they say it's ok, is it right to do that? And even worse if knowing that your partner doesn't feel comfortable about what you do but you still do it, is it ok to keep it on still? Do you respect his/her feelings then?
Somehow it seems different to others. Some actually don't worry about this at all or it never even crossed their mind. Or maybe it's just their culture, their culture to be ok to everything without thinking the need of respecting each other's feeling. Then can they be called as bitches and assholes? Let ourself think about it, no one is right or wrong, depends on how we see things :)
Texting other girls/guys for everyday and night, who can tell me if it's right or wrong? One party might take it as nothing but another might think differently. Insecurity is an ugly thing, but it's not just about the insecurity. It is also about respecting your partner's feelings. What if your partner do the same thing, how will you feel about it? One day, two days, three days, one week, two weeks you can still tolerate it and not say anything, how about everyday, how will things become? How will the relationship be? Relationship that is full of hatred because one's voice is never been heard? Is it right or is it wrong?
On the other side, as friends and you text your friend everyday and night knowing they have a partner, who can tell me if it's right or wrong thing to do? Do you as friends ever think of whatever you do which seem ok to you might not be ok to your friend's partner? Do you give a respect to your friend's relationship and their partner regards whether you know them or not? Do you ever think of what if because of what you do then your friend's relationship is ruined? And if it does happen, how do you feel about it, do you ever feel regret and guilty to your friend and their partner?
For some people this issue is acceptable and not for others, depending on the way we see things. Personally, if I know that my friend has a partner, I watch after what I do towards my friendship. Even if they openly tell me that they are and their partner are ok about it, I still watch myself. I respect my friend's relationship and their partner's feeling even if I don't know him/her. I don't want to be called as the third party or be hated because of things that I think it's ok to be done. No matter how closed or how long or how well I know my friend, once I know that they have a partner, I make a gap to make sure that both the friendship between me and my friend and the relationship of my friend and the partner is not ruined or in trouble because of me. I don't want to lose my friendship, and I don't want my friend to lose the relationship as well.
And another thing, if you are in a relationship having a boyfriend/girlfriend, do you think texting with others day and night is the right thing to do even for just being friends? For you maybe it's ok but do you ever consider about how your other half think and feel about it? Even if they say it's ok, is it right to do that? And even worse if knowing that your partner doesn't feel comfortable about what you do but you still do it, is it ok to keep it on still? Do you respect his/her feelings then?
Somehow it seems different to others. Some actually don't worry about this at all or it never even crossed their mind. Or maybe it's just their culture, their culture to be ok to everything without thinking the need of respecting each other's feeling. Then can they be called as bitches and assholes? Let ourself think about it, no one is right or wrong, depends on how we see things :)
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Friendly vs Flirty
What is friendly? And what is flirty?
There are a lot of different views and thoughts to this. Noone can really give proper explanation regarding these two matters. There is a very thin line between being friendly and being flirty. Even if you type on Google, there is no exact answers about this.
Here are some of the different views:
One person may say that flirting is harmless as long no one is hurt by it. One person may say that it is not good to flirt under no circumstance because it can lead to the wrong things if you are not expecting anything out of it.
there is a HUGE difference between flirting and being nice although many people couldnt tell.
- flirting is more like giving/showing you the green light that there could be something more than friendship between us, if you make the right move.
- being nice is simply making sure that you are comfortable (at ease) around that person, while NEVER crossing the important friendly line!
Flirting is suggestive. Being nice is being nice with no undertones.
Flirting seeks indulgence. Being nice at worst seeks appreciation.
Flirting craves excitement. U don't have to be excited about being nice.
Flirting is complusive, impulsive & excessive. It could also become obsessive. Being nice is none of this.
Flirting is self seeking. U want to feel good about what effect U can see U are having on the other person while doing those things U are doing. Lets not lie to ourselves, we all flirt sometime like animals do mating rituals; but even animals choose who they mate with & they have flirting/mating seasons. For those who say, ''I'm not flirting. I'm only being nice/polite,'' when it's clear to others that they are flirting, you're in denial. Addictions are of different forms. No be only alcohol dey high person.
And I think this is the best, the trick is never to assume that just because a person is being nice to you means they want you.
There are a lot of different views and thoughts to this. Noone can really give proper explanation regarding these two matters. There is a very thin line between being friendly and being flirty. Even if you type on Google, there is no exact answers about this.
Here are some of the different views:
One person may say that flirting is harmless as long no one is hurt by it. One person may say that it is not good to flirt under no circumstance because it can lead to the wrong things if you are not expecting anything out of it.
there is a HUGE difference between flirting and being nice although many people couldnt tell.
- flirting is more like giving/showing you the green light that there could be something more than friendship between us, if you make the right move.
- being nice is simply making sure that you are comfortable (at ease) around that person, while NEVER crossing the important friendly line!
Flirting is suggestive. Being nice is being nice with no undertones.
Flirting seeks indulgence. Being nice at worst seeks appreciation.
Flirting craves excitement. U don't have to be excited about being nice.
Flirting is complusive, impulsive & excessive. It could also become obsessive. Being nice is none of this.
Flirting is self seeking. U want to feel good about what effect U can see U are having on the other person while doing those things U are doing. Lets not lie to ourselves, we all flirt sometime like animals do mating rituals; but even animals choose who they mate with & they have flirting/mating seasons. For those who say, ''I'm not flirting. I'm only being nice/polite,'' when it's clear to others that they are flirting, you're in denial. Addictions are of different forms. No be only alcohol dey high person.
And I think this is the best, the trick is never to assume that just because a person is being nice to you means they want you.
Sunday, September 16, 2012
Everyone except......
I always thought that I'm the one, I'm the special one,but seems like I'm wrong. I'm just an exception. I'm an exception for everything. Everyone have the right to know about you but me. You let everyone see you but me. You blocked me from everything as if I don't have the right to know any updates about you. Blocked me here and there, rejected me here and there, I know all this. You hide me from your world, I know as well. Everyone know everything about you, except RENITA KURNIAWAN
I thought I'm supposed to be the one to know you the most but it doesn't seem to be that way. Maybe I should not say a word about it. You have the right to keep things from me, I have no right to be angry about it. I'm just a nobody who simply loves to stay by your side, who you look and reach out for when others are away or when you have some problems but noone to share with.
I'm a no body that can't ask for much. It's good enough that you let me stay by your side and have your company. I believe even if I'm not around you would be ok by yourself because you have much more companions, the people whom you can have more fun with. I'm nothing but a boring girl who you can't have fun with. Maybe that's the reason you prefer others compare to me.
I don't know why you are keeping me by your side, is it because you really love me and want me to be around or you are afraid to be lonely? If you really do love me, how come I sometimes feel like an outsider to you? You promise me not to lie, not to hide things, no secret but you still do.
All I know is that I love you a lot more than anything. All I want is for you to be happy. All I want is to see you smile and happy everyday even if it's not because of me. Do you really feel happy having me around and being with me? I'm willing to let you go as long as I know that you are happy even without me being around. Being treated like a stranger by the person who you expect to give the most attention to you hurts so much. All I want is for you to understand me a little bit more.
Dear Lord,
If this guy is meant to be with me and we are to be together, please ease our way. Please open his heart and mind to understand me a little bit more about this relationship and my insecurity. Please let him be more understanding and sensitive towards my feeling. But if he is not the one for me, please take him away from me slowly so I won't feel so much of the pain. All I want is for him to be happy and that's it. Only You know the best.......
I thought I'm supposed to be the one to know you the most but it doesn't seem to be that way. Maybe I should not say a word about it. You have the right to keep things from me, I have no right to be angry about it. I'm just a nobody who simply loves to stay by your side, who you look and reach out for when others are away or when you have some problems but noone to share with.
I'm a no body that can't ask for much. It's good enough that you let me stay by your side and have your company. I believe even if I'm not around you would be ok by yourself because you have much more companions, the people whom you can have more fun with. I'm nothing but a boring girl who you can't have fun with. Maybe that's the reason you prefer others compare to me.
I don't know why you are keeping me by your side, is it because you really love me and want me to be around or you are afraid to be lonely? If you really do love me, how come I sometimes feel like an outsider to you? You promise me not to lie, not to hide things, no secret but you still do.
All I know is that I love you a lot more than anything. All I want is for you to be happy. All I want is to see you smile and happy everyday even if it's not because of me. Do you really feel happy having me around and being with me? I'm willing to let you go as long as I know that you are happy even without me being around. Being treated like a stranger by the person who you expect to give the most attention to you hurts so much. All I want is for you to understand me a little bit more.
Dear Lord,
If this guy is meant to be with me and we are to be together, please ease our way. Please open his heart and mind to understand me a little bit more about this relationship and my insecurity. Please let him be more understanding and sensitive towards my feeling. But if he is not the one for me, please take him away from me slowly so I won't feel so much of the pain. All I want is for him to be happy and that's it. Only You know the best.......
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